TMS is about feeling, not thinking

I have what is called an intellectual defense. This means I use my knowledge of the problem and solution to make a therapist or coach think I am grasping the concept of overcoming TMS. I was not. I was only fooling myself. The therapist left the session feeling that I got it. I left the session more confused than ever. Why did I know everything about TMS yet be unable to overcome it? It is because TMS is not an intellectual conquest; it is a feeling one.

I see this in many of my clients. They are very confused about why they have worked with many people in the industry and read every book yet are not better. They put up the same wall as I did. They get this concerned look once I tell them they must feel their way out of TMS. But no worries, it is not that difficult or traumatic.

Most of us want a silver bullet to this difficult state we find ourselves in. Anything to stop the pain or illness, unless it involves hard work and talking about our feelings. Give me a pill! Give me surgery, they yell! I do not offer that type of solution. TMS work requires digging fairly deep into trauma and unprocessed emotions and explaining how they relate to the pain or illness. If someone cannot access those emotions due to feeling unsafe, there are other ways to release the trauma. Our objective is to make you and the brain feel safe. When that happens, the symptoms decrease or go away.